The first working Monday of each New Year is often dubbed 'Divorce Day,' a term that reflects the expected surge in divorce inquiries, post Christmas.

While the family team at Thackray Williams Solicitors experienced higher call volumes on 6 January, compared to any other day in January, January itself saw more family inquiries, than any other month across 2024.

Divorce is rarely a sudden decision, triggered by a single event. Individuals contemplate separation carefully, choosing to delay discussions until after the festive season, and children have returned to school.

Whether you’re considering a separation or divorce, or you’ve taken that initial step, here’s Thackray Williams Solicitors’ Top 10 things to think about:

1. Hopeful of reconciliation? Perhaps consider marriage counselling. Relate could help.

2. If reconciliation isn't feasible, start planning for your separation. Consider your goals for yourself, your partner, and your children. What do you see for the future?

3. Gather financial information including property valuations, mortgage statements, savings, investments, credits cards, loans and income. Your solicitor can obtain your partner's financial information.

4. Don’t overlook pensions. Obtain a valuation from your pension provider. This valuation, often called a 'transfer value' or 'cash equivalent value' (CEV), is crucial to secure a fair settlement.

5. List out your monthly expenses including mortgage/rent, utility bills, loans and school/nursery/childcare costs.

6. Research your lawyers. Whilst some law firms offer free initial consultations, these are typically short. For a comprehensive discussion, consider a 'fixed price' consultation. This allows a thorough review of your situation, providing you with the necessary time and guidance to make informed decisions.

7. It's crucial to feel comfortable with your chosen solicitor. If you don't connect with the first solicitor you speak to, don't hesitate to seek a second. Finding a solicitor you trust, and understand, is essential for a positive experience.

8. Discuss your budget. Family lawyers will help in any way they can, offering flexible arrangements when possible. Lawyers typically charge hourly rates, based on their experience. Discuss fees and choose a solicitor who best suits your needs and budget.

9. Alternative Dispute Resolution (ADR) offers a way to resolve family issues outside of Court. By choosing ADR, you may save time and money while encouraging a more amicable resolution. This is particularly important when children are involved. ADR can be effectively used to address divorce, financial settlements, and child-related arrangements. ADR is not appropriate in all cases. It’s also possible to contact a Mediator directly (Family Mediation | Resolution and Family Mediation Council).

10. When conducting online research, rely on reputable sources. Remember that each family, and divorce situation, is unique. For further information, explore these recommended websites

If you have any questions or would like to explore your current situation with us, please email Caroline Burstein, Family Law Partner, at caroline.burstein@thackraywilliams.com.